Tag: positivity

Growing in Connection With Others

Posted on August 5, 2021

In the words of Joyce Gottlieb, writer, coach and psychotherapist, “…we grow in connection with others.”  The following article (written by a person who learned English later in life) gives concrete steps on enhancing your communication by inspiring and influencing the people around you, e.g., Rule #3, compliment to affect people’s sense of self. Yes, not until you make a connection with the other first—will your words be heard and understood.  I want all of ...

Don’t believe everything you read on social media and 7 other tough lessons of the decade

Posted on January 12, 2020

This article highlights many lessons learned over the last decade regarding digital technology -- both positive and negative.  A good review of how fast technology is growing and, with that, our growing dependence on it.  Important points here on -  privacy, our health record, news which can be deceiving and, the importance of getting our heads "out of the clouds" to remember who we are and what WE think. The post ends with a great ...

How to Stop Obsessing Over Your Mistakes

Posted on September 8, 2019

In my experience as a pscycholgoist and leadership Coach, I often hear the challenge successful people have in managing their thoughts around mistakes which they have made.  The pointers given in this brief Harvard Business Review article are timeless and quite effective.  And, to top it off, these "manage your mind around mistakes" methods are founded in social science research.

Leading with Gratitude

Posted on May 7, 2019

Many people agree that our culture is growing more impatient, selfish, disrespectful and ungrateful. Those who haven’t noticed are likely not bothered, and may be contributing to these disturbing tendencies. Not exactly glowing statements on our day and age. These attitudes and behaviors are also visible in every corner of the working world, as organizations struggle to keep employees engaged, loyal, civil and productive. Employees have no difficulty pinpointing the things that annoy them, while ...

How to Build Resilience in Mid-Life

Posted on August 23, 2017

Resilience, defined by most as the ability to recover from setbacks, adapt well to change, and keep going in the face of adversity, is widely considered now an important behavior to nurture well-being and healing from life's challenges. This article outlines specific ways one can practice and develop resilience to manage the stresses living a life may bring.

How to Find Happiness…3 Secrets From Research

Posted on July 1, 2015

Every wondered "What is the best version of myself?"  The answer to this is embedded in this article which outline recent research on ways to make your life happier - or ways to infuse more positive emotion into your life...and enjoy it.  Caveat: like much of life, this involves attention, monitoring and practicing new ways of doing things.

The Way To Happiness: Remember The Four P’s

Posted on January 5, 2014

   The Four P's of happiness:  Purpose, Perspective, People and Play - Read here as to how you can develop a process to move toward a sense of purpose and positivity in work and life.

Positivity in the Work Place

Posted on January 12, 2013

[video_lightbox_youtube video_id="HSSrVW_zYK4" width="640" height="390" anchor="https://www.perlacoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/PositivityInTheWorkPlace-600.jpg"]Research shows that when we can maintain a ratio of 3 (positive emotion) : 1 (negative emotion) in the work place we show up more able to make and maintain productive relationships, have more effective team interactions and more successful client interactions.  Maintaining this ratio is challenging given the negative bias of negative emotions on the brain: we are biologically hard wired to pay more attention to negative emotion.  Often stated: ...

The CEO as Transformational Storyteller

Posted on November 30, 2011

Amid economic challenges like those at work today, companies need to transform themselves, adapting to survive and even move ahead.  But given the volume of coverage and advisory-oriented information out there, surprisingly little attention is paid to the role of one important person – the CEO.   What can this key leader do? According to a recent article in the McKinsey Quarterly, issued by management consultants McKinsey & Company, the first thing CEOs should do is ...

Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us

Posted on January 23, 2011

"The desire to do something because you find it deeply satisfying and personally challenging inspires the highest levels of creativity, whether it's in the arts, sciences, or business" Theresa Amabile  Professor, Harvard University Daniel Pink challenges and inspires in this visually brilliant video as he teaches us how to reconsider what motivates ourselves and ways to breath life into motivating others. Remember these three words: Autonomy, Mastery and Purpose and then take a few minutes ...