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Growing in Connection With Others

Posted on August 5, 2021

In the words of Joyce Gottlieb, writer, coach and psychotherapist, “…we grow in connection with others.”  The following article (written by a person who learned English later in life) gives concrete steps on enhancing your communication by inspiring and influencing the people around you, e.g., Rule #3, compliment to affect people’s sense of self. Yes, not until you make a connection with the other first—will your words be heard and understood.  I want all of ...

Here’s how to avoid “Death by PowerPoint”

Posted on May 31, 2019

We have all been there:  presentation coming up, need to develop slides, how to make them interesting, not cluttered? Where to begin, end? What is too much and what is too little on a slide?  How many slides are needed? Here is an article written by an expert on Powerpoint who offers advice and, introduces new technology in PowerPoint, e.g., morph, reuse slide, and text icons--all of which can support efficient and interesting slide deck ...

This Is How To Create Happy Memories That Will Last A Lifetime: 3 Secrets From Research

Posted on November 12, 2017

It's fascinating what causes people to remember certain experiences, activities, and times in their lives.  Yet, most of the time we wonder what we did last week that was meaningful or, how fast time is going by and ... what is there to show for it?  This article describes the research behind what makes certain events memorable and how to create more of them to savor and enjoy the life we have.  Here are some ...

Former Microsoft Employee Talks About Work Life Balance

Posted on April 19, 2016

This former employee from Microsoft gives some sobering yet essential advice on "when you know  it's time to walk away" from a demanding job.  Read this Huffington Post article on how he found the importance of -- being dedicated to your professional growth, without sacrificing your personal growth.

Training Our Brains to Better Manage and Express Emotions and Thinking

Posted on July 28, 2015

Richard Davidson is probably the foremost researcher on the effect of meditation on the brain. He has studied Tibetan monks by using EEG's to watch their brains during meditation. He was invited to study the monks by the Dalai Lama - a spiritual leader most interested in science.  Why meditation for those of us in Business?  We are learning through this research that mindfulness practices help leaders to calm, become better able to respond in stressful ...

How to Spot a Lie

Posted on July 17, 2014

Surprising new research that shows us how we all have learned at an early age to detect lying or dishonesty. This short article by Robert Biswas-Diener reminds us to pay attention to this primal sense. Whether your leading a team, managing a group of people or managing yourself in the midst of a difficult communication, learning more about how you can detect  inauthentic communication is a good skill to hone.   How to Spot a Lie

Positivity in the Work Place

Posted on January 12, 2013

[video_lightbox_youtube video_id="HSSrVW_zYK4" width="640" height="390" anchor="https://www.perlacoaching.com/wp-content/uploads/PositivityInTheWorkPlace-600.jpg"]Research shows that when we can maintain a ratio of 3 (positive emotion) : 1 (negative emotion) in the work place we show up more able to make and maintain productive relationships, have more effective team interactions and more successful client interactions.  Maintaining this ratio is challenging given the negative bias of negative emotions on the brain: we are biologically hard wired to pay more attention to negative emotion.  Often stated: ...

I Like Facebook, HBU (how ‘bout you)?

Posted on November 30, 2011

By Tim Hayes As a newbie to Facebook, I’m in the process of learning not only how to navigate these new waters of Walls and Friending and feigning interest in people’s toenail painting appointments, but also how to communicate business opportunities to heretofore untapped markets. The universe of Twitter beckons as well, but my limit is one culture shock at a time, thanks. One of the more fascinating aspects of these and other social media ...

Creative Planning Retreat for Professionals

Posted on February 8, 2011

Save the Date: Friday, April 8 - Saturday, April 9, 2011 St. Emma’s Monastery Greensburg, PA Retreat facilitated by Rosemarie Perla,  Executive Coach and Consultant Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your ...

Personal Boundaries

Posted on February 8, 2010

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt We all can understand the concept of personal space, e.g., someone moving too close to us and then we feel the need to back up to "get our space back."  We also have "psychological boundaries" that need to be respected.  Sometimes, with some people, those boundaries are violated. Boundaries are imaginary lines that keep other people's actions and behaviors out.  Anything that causes ...