Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us

Posted on January 23, 2011

"The desire to do something because you find it deeply satisfying and personally challenging inspires the highest levels of creativity, whether it's in the arts, sciences, or business" Theresa Amabile  Professor, Harvard University Daniel Pink challenges and inspires in this visually brilliant video as he teaches us how to reconsider what motivates ourselves and ways to breath life into motivating others. Remember these three words: Autonomy, Mastery and Purpose and then take a few minutes ...

The Ladder of Effective Speaking

Posted on September 11, 2010

Speaking in a manner that is concise, energetic and clearly communicates ones requests, information and desires is refreshing and important in our information-cluttered age.  As one teacher said, “So many ways of communicating and what ARE WE communicating?” How many conversations in meetings, emails, face to face and blogs do we come upon in a day—do you feel certain that you are communicating powerfully and successfully?  Too often, we get caught using language that does ...

Five Secrets of Effective Communication

Posted on March 10, 2010

David Burns, MD has contributed many books to our understanding of how our thoughts and feelings can be managed to change our moods.  His method for effectively communicating is excellent especially in situations that are difficult, "heated" or in conflictual conversations in the work place - or at home.  The key here is to use a method below which you can genuinely express. If it seems inauthentic to the listener, it is not effective.  Practice! ...

Personal Boundaries

Posted on February 8, 2010

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt We all can understand the concept of personal space, e.g., someone moving too close to us and then we feel the need to back up to "get our space back."  We also have "psychological boundaries" that need to be respected.  Sometimes, with some people, those boundaries are violated. Boundaries are imaginary lines that keep other people's actions and behaviors out.  Anything that causes ...

Getting happier at work

Posted on January 23, 2010

“Let the beauty of what you love, be what you do” Jahad-ad-din Rumi (Persian poet 1207-1273) [caption id="attachment_109" align="alignleft" width="150"] Getting Happier at Work[/caption] Remember when you were a little kid and you would dream about who you wanted to BE when you grew up?   Just the thought of independently communicating your power at a job where you expressed your talents, strengths and interest...felt, well it felt grown up. Then you grew up.  Keeping the ...

Gratitude: Taking Time to Express Thanks

Posted on December 3, 2009

"The hardest arithmetic to master is that which enables us to count our blessings." -Eric Hoffer The holiday card that the Perla Group sent out this year states: During this season of gratitude and celebration, we acknowledge those who have made our success possible.  In this spirit, we say thank you. May peace be with you and yours in this coming year, as well as a prayer for our world. [caption id="attachment_87" align="alignleft" width="150"] Gratitude: ...

Communicating with Difficult People: Some Simple Tips

Posted on November 15, 2009

"You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist." -Indira Gandhi This is the title of a workshop that I frequently give when asked to speak to a group of people within a business or organization.  Why?  Because each and every day we are all faced with challenging people and difficult work situations.  Keeping our sense of purpose, intent and clear communication skills are all points to remember in such situations. A review: Stop wishing that ...

What does an executive coach do?

Posted on October 29, 2009

"Let him that would move the world, first move himself" --Socrates Executive coaches work more or less exclusively with senior people from organizations.  They work with clients to achieve speedy, increased and sustainable effectiveness in their lives and careers through focused learning.  The coach’s sole aim is to work with the client to achieve all the client’s potential- as defined by the client. In today’s competitive work and economic environment where business people find themselves, ...

Positive Psychology-The theory behind Executive Coaching

Posted on September 28, 2009

“Positive emotions are not trivial luxuries, but instead might be critical necessities for optimal functioning.” — Barbara Fredrickson Positive Psychology is the study of what makes us flourish and what makes life worth living.   I attended the 2nd Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital’s “Coaching in Medicine and Leadership” Conference which was held on September 25 and 26 2009.  This conference had many scholars speaking on new research in positive psychology.   Unlike traditional psychology ...

Creative thinking and positive emotion

Posted on August 31, 2009

“There are, at least, TWO ways to relate to anything:  a small minded way and a large minded way. Choose large mind." John G. Sullivan Open up the lens of your thinking by choosing "large mind".   A helpful image to consider when your thoughts, under stress, are going down the “psycho path”:  when we feel upset, scared, angry, or generally thinking negatively.  Soon, pessimistic recourse is all that we can imagine.  Consider the comic from ...